Hey gals. It's the eve of Valentine's Day, and I don't know about you, but this holiday really snuck up on me this year. How does that always happen? In any case, I'm heading out of town tomorrow for a Galentine's getaway with a few of my favorite gals to the Oregon coast (cue the fresh ocean breeze and lots of delicious craft beer)
Nevertheless, I felt that it would be remise not to compile a survival guide to Valentine's Day for anyone among us who wants to turn an awkward day into one of the best of your week, maybe even month? I don't want to build this up to much, but still, I believe in you! So, singletons, let's take back Valentine's Day. Who's with me?
1) Watch Your Favorite Romantic Movie
This might sound counter-intuitive, but it's one of my go-to things to do on Valentine's Day normally, especially with a good glass of red wine (usually a red blend or an inexpensive-yet-amazing Italian red wine from Trader Joe's). Whether you're with your girlfriends drooling over the beautiful man or whether you're having a peaceful night to yourself, watching a movie full of romance and passion feels therapeutic. We live in a day and age full of lackluster "hey what's up" and "you're cute" messages on Tinder, so why not treat yourself to grand gestures and epic love stories on the screen?
A few of my favorite romantic movies: Romeo + Juliet (pictured above), 10 Things I Hate About You, Austenland, Pride and Prejudice (it's all about that Keira Knightley version, am I right?), Moulin Rouge, About Time, The Wedding Planner, The Wedding Date, Jane Eyre, and WAY too many more to list.
2) Have a Spa Day
It's easy to put ourselves to the side in day to day life, but no matter what your profession, whether you're a photographer always carrying heavy gear or a server who's on their feet for 8 hours at a time or even if you sit at a desk and look at a computer, you need time to take care of your body. Our bodies enable us to do so much cool stuff, like, well, being alive, and the least we can do it dedicate a little time to caring for our bodies. Of course, Valentine's Day is not a national holiday, so not all of us have ample time to unwind, but give yourself at least 15 minutes of self care. Maybe that looks like stretching to calming music, or maybe that looks like writing in a journal with a cup of lavender and chamomile tea on the table next to you. Maybe it's a 45 minute bath while listening to an episode of your favorite podcast with the Volcano Anthropologie candle glowing on the side of the tub. Maybe that looks like a whole day at the spa (take me with you, please?), whatever your budget and day allows for, give yourself a little TLC. Because, girl, no guy can treat you as good as you can treat you. Just being real.
3) Write Down 5 Things You Love About Yourself
One of my favorite things about myself?
Well, I love my vinyl collection! And my taste in music in general. I know it sounds silly and a little bit random, but I genuinely enjoy looking in this corner of my room, seeing my collection, and being like, 'Yeah, I love all that music!' Collecting vinyl from bands like Bread and Fleetwood Mac is something that my parents did when they were younger, and now I get to look for the same records.
Just because you're single does not mean you don't deserve complements, from yourself. Okay, if you're friends are doing their jobs, then you're hearing encouragement and complements all the time, but it's even more powerful coming from you. Especially coming out of the holidays, it's easy to look at all the things we need to improve upon, ie going to the gym more, texting people back, calling our relatives, watering the plants (or leaving them alone), but it's important to acknowledge your current victories and how you're slaying right now. We're our own worst critics, but we don't have to be. So, take at least 5 minutes, maybe more, and reflect on your favorite things about yourself. Your laugh, your lipstick game, your heart, whatever it may be. Once you're done writing those down, you could even read them out loud. Y'all, I'm not trying to sound insane or vain, but self love is so important. And especially on Valentine's Day. And everyday. Just try it, okay? For me?
4) Tell Your Best Girlfriends You Love Them
Your gals are those babes who are always there for you. They lift your mood, they go for late-night chicken nugget runs with you, they make fun of The Bachelor with you, what would life be without them? Throughout your day, even if it's just a text from the toilet (don't act like we don't all do that), tell them how much they mean to you. It can feel extremely vulnerable, but it's also so refreshing. People don't talk about their feelings. For crying out loud, "DGAF" used to be cool. But when it comes to your friends, YOU SHOULD GIVE A FUDGE (censored because fudge is good and my mom reads this blog, you know). So even if you're not buying them candy or even if you're apart on Valentine's Day, let them know how much you care. My favorite love language over text? GIFS. They're always from the heart.
5) Treat Yourself
You deserve it, gal.
Yeah, I said it. BE YOUR OWN SUGAR DADDY. Or Mama in this case. Either way! It doesn't matter if you're buying yourself a $7 bottle of wine instead of a $3 bottle, or if you're treating yourself to a cute new pair of shoes, give yourself a little gift. Gifts aren't everything, of course, but I personally believe that on a day where mythical "bae" is supposed to be bringing you breakfast in bed and a bouquet of roses with chocolate, you deserve to have a little something. Do you love Trader Joe's Dark Chocolate Peanut? Then buy them! Do you love pepperoni pizza? Pick up, the phone, girlfriend, you're having pizza tonight. Whatever it is, treat yourself. It's one day. As Justin Bieber would say, "Love Yourself."
Have a wonderful Valentine's Day, babes! What're your plans for the day? Thanks for tuning in.